Tuesday, May 10, 2011

Giveaway!!! Free ipad

Hey friends!

Would you like a chance to win an ipad AND at the same time help out an amazing family doing an amazing thing? Well the Jenkins family are adopting two special needs children from eastern Europe. The process is going much quicker then they anticipated and they will be ready to travel in about a month,(its been three months and this thing usually take 9-12 mo!) They haven't had a lot of time to fund raise. THEY NEED OUR HELP!! Go to their website to enter for the ipad. They are taking donations through Reece's Rainbow,(reecesrainbow.org) or the link on their website,(www.jenkinschasingrainbows.blogspot.com).

As you know adoption is very close to my heart and after coming away alive,(and extremely blessed!!!) from completing three adoptions through foster care last year we feel led to do it again! Only this time we hope to adopt a special needs child/ren from overseas. Please pray for us as we seek Him in what He has next for us:)

We are praying about adopting a child from the photolistings on http://reecesrainbow.org/new-family/thechildren or http://www.projecthopeful.org/waiting-kids .

I would like to encourage you to go through these site and see what they are all about. Look at the children and allow yourself to see them as real people who, without you and me, will die.

Now I know that not all of us are called to adopt, but we are ALL called to do SOMETHING. It looks different for everyone, some maybe called to adopt, some my be called to support financially, and all are called to pray. Praying for these children and their families my seem like the least that one could do but in reality it is the most you can.

I want to encourage you to pray for the Jenkins family, and if you feel led, help them financially.

Adoption is very exciting but it can also tear you down. The paperwork, jumping through hoops,(and EVERYONE has a hoop!)Financially, both the cost of adoption and bringing more mouths to feed. By the time you bring your child home you can be so mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually exhausted that you unprepared for the REAL journey to start. The fine art of integrating new people into a family can be rough. It is a blessing beyond blessings but it takes awhile. I know that without the prayers of friends and family I would have never made it through after we brought our children home. Praise Jesus we are a healed and happy family now, but there were many times in the past year and a half when I wondered if I would be able to finish the race.

Some days, as I search to the end of the internet, I find myself overwhelmed by all the faces and stories I read about children in need of families. I think, " There are so many!..I can't adopt them all!..How can I choose one and not another?" It's overwhelming. It makes me want to shut off my computer, stop looking at the faces,and stop caring. But I know I can't do that. God has placed the orphans in my heart for a reason.

There are 147 Million orphans in the world. This number is staggering. But, did you know, that if only 1% of Christians adopt one child, there would be no more orphans in the world?...One percent! That is so do-able! So,I will keep looking at those photos of those waiting children, and I will keep allowing God to break my heart because I realized that that 1% starts with...ME...and it starts with you too.

Monday, March 14, 2011


I am excited about this giveaway. It looks like a great reading curriculm.

Thursday, January 20, 2011

Book Giveaway!

Hey my friend is having a book giveaway on her blog. Check it out! Of course you wont win it because I'm going to;)Hehe!


Wednesday, January 19, 2011

How life changes and oh how it flies!

I can't believe I haven't been on here in a year! I didn't document all the good stuff!! Oh well, I'll do my best to give you a rough draft on the past year.

I never would have imagined a year ago how much my life would change. I never would have done this if I had know how hard it was going to be. And I am so glad I didn't know because I am wrecked and I never want to go back to my selfish, unfulfilled life before three beautiful, wonderful, amazing, traumatized, traumatizing, exasperating, monster children came into my life. I have grown so much as a person I doubt my friends,(the ones not in the trenches with me) recognize me anymore!

Of course for them to recognize me they would actually have to see me and to see me I would actually have to leave my house and since I have three kids now AND I home school,(Yes, I said I'd never do that! But guess what? There are a lot of things I have done as a mom that I said I'd never do!) so that doesn't happen very often. LOL!

So I left off in Jan. right after Virgil tried to die on me. Scary! But not the only brush with death he would have in 2010. He was also punched in the face several times and choked while strapped in his car seat.(I mention this causally but at the time it was very serious and we took all precautions necessary to keep him safe once we realized he was in danger.) He has inflicted several black eyes on himself,(he is my daredevil.) and lots of bumps and bruises. He is tuff though. At least now he is learning to come to me with his boo boo's. He is super active and adores Ryan above all else. He loves to jump into Ryan's arms and say "Let's go!"

I spent much of the year driving from one town to the next taking E and J to various social worker meeting, therapy sessions and physiological evaluations and visits with birth family. Since they are from another county we did ALOT of driving!

They were diagnosed with a few disorders so I did lots of studying to know how best to help them.

I don't think there is a surface in my house that hasn't either been pied on or pooped on...

In March a family friend was murder and so that added to our current state of trauma.

Life was really really hard for awhile and I didn't think I could do it. Thankfully I have a wonderful support system made up of family, friends, other adoptive parents and seasoned foster parents that have been invaluable in this process.

We finalized Virgil's adoption in August. It was scary to finalize the older two with all their behaviors not under control. But we believed that God was calling us and so we finalised E and J's adoptions in October.

And then the most amazing thing happened....

The very day we finalized ALL the behaviors stopped!!! We didn't know what to think. We just prayed it was for real. And it was. Sure they still have baggage. They are human and they have been through more then any one should go through. But they are normal. They are great kids and we are so blessed and honored to be their parents.

I know this updae is pretty vague. In the midst of the process I could not imagine ever putting myself through that again. But now that we have come through the storm I don't remember a lot of it and I no longer feel the pain. I know what God has brought me through and how it has change my life forever. He is an awesome God this God that I serve.

Now we are looking forward to a future full of hope and new adventure. Maybe even another adoption. Time will tell. Please keep praying for us!

My plan is to start posting on this blog again. I know the next andventure is going to be hard, harder then the last but I am up for the challenge and I don't want anyone to miss out on it this time!!

"For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."
Jeremiah 29:11

Saturday, January 23, 2010

Things arn't as bad as they could be!

We had a really scarey thing happen on Monday. Virgil woke up with a fever of 103 at about 5:00am. I gave him a bath with vinager in it and got some motrin in him. He just wanted to be held and so I sat down with him while he slept on me. At about 8:30am I felt his whole body get super hot really fast. He turned red, sat up and then his mouth dropped open and he stopped breathing! I called his name several times but he was unresponsive. I tried calling 911 but I was panicking and couldn't get the phone to work. The kids were scraming and running in and out of the house. I was finally able to dial my mom. I started CPR and then got through to 911. After about 3 breaths he started breathing again. My mom showed up just as he came back. It took the ambulance 20 minutes to get here. He was stable by that time so I told them I'd take him to the hospital.
When it was happening I thought he was having a seizure because it is so common when babies have a fever. But it didn't seem like a siezure. After discribing what happened to the doctor on call he didn't think so either.
At the hospital they did a spinal tap, bloodwork and a urinaylisis. They let us go at about 2:00pm saying he probably has a viral infection but they are not sure. They did tell me I should have given him Tylonal instead of Motrin or both for a fever.
By early evening he was back to normal other then he ran aout of steam pretty quickly.
So after all that, everything that we have been dealing with with the other two pales incomparison to possiblity losing our baby boy.
The kids are in counseling now. The gal is nice but in reality not real helpful. There is a lot of fluff going on but not much progress. I think we need somone who is expereince with attachment disorder.
The hearing to see if they will be staying is on the 28th of this month. We only have to have the grandma visits once a month now instead of once a week and the phone calls are not happening anymore either. All things considered the kids are doing well and I think they are getting used to the idea that they may be staying.
That's about it for now. Until next time...

Tuesday, January 5, 2010

I LOVE Love & Logic!!!!

What a crazy couple of weeks! My life has been turned upside down and around. My house looks like a war zone. There are children everywhere!Ha! Elisa started first grade in a new school yesterday. She said she really liked it and the teacher said she fit in like she had been there all year. What relief!!
Walker,(that's what Joaquin wants to be called)is in preschool but its been tough to get someone to call me back from the school system. From what I understand you really have to fight to get a kid in school around here. So we are just hanging out today.
Virgil is adjusting to having siblings slowly. It's really bringing out his personality. He is going to be my little firecracker! Him and Walker brawl quite frequently and it isn't always Virgil who ends up the loser!
I think it funny how the kids have no concept of the fact that he is a baby and doesn't understand like they do. To them he is their peer. Yesterday Virgil was climbing up Walker and he started elbowing him in the ribs! I told him he couldn't do that to him and Walker responded with,"But he was doing it first!!" LOL
I've really been able to put the Love and Logic stuff to work. It's great!! I love how it deflates a situation before it starts.
This morning Elisa was mad about some "terrible injustice" and started yelling at Walker to to leave her alone because she was in a bad mood. I gave her a choice of being sweet and hanging out with he rest of us or being in a bad mood on her bed. She didn't answer me so I choose for her. I sent her to her room singing "Feel free to join us when you are acting sweet!" She pouted and gave me the stink eye all the way to her room. Then she wailed for about 5 min. At ten minutes she was quiet but still not acting sweet. Unfortunately,(for her) it was time to leave for school. I sang, "Sweetie, would you like to wear your shoes to school or carry them?" she responded that she wanted to wear them. I said "OK well its time to get in the car so dad can take you to school."
She responded,"But I haven't brushed my hair yet!"
Me,"I know sweetie, but we are out of time. Have a great day at school! I love you!!" And off she went! (A little surprised but she went.)
Teaching them to make wise choices is so fun!!
Another one we are experimenting with is, "Feel free to keep any toys that you pick up!" We set the house rules the night before last. I gave them all day yesterday to pic up the toys and I'm about to make a sweep through he house to see what I find. Of course we will give them the toys back wen they do some sort of odd job to work it off. This is so fun!
Aside from all the fun we are having we are also so tired!! I can't believe we have 3 kids!! Plus we all keep passing the same sick back and forth. Yuk!!
Oh! And did I mention that I have seen "ICE AGE; Dawn of the Dinosaurs" like 15 thousand times since Sat night?? I just have to laugh! Thats all one can do right?? Either that or go stark raving mad!! Hmmmm....;)

Monday, December 28, 2009

Merry Christmas to us!

Last Friday,(before Christmas) we got a call from State Adoptions. They had a sibling group of two for us. Girl 6 and boy 4. I got the call at around 11 A.M. and I picked them up in another county at 5 P.M!
The story is that they were removed form their birth parents about 2 years ago because of neglect and abuse and placed with their grandmother. At the time the grandmother was married and had a renter that helped her with the kids. The birth parents terminated their own rights so that the grandmother could adopt them. Unfortunately the grandmother couldn't get approved to adopt them so the county worked it out so she could be the guardian. At the time she also had their little sister who was an infant. Then her husband left her and he renter moved out. She called State adoptions and had them place the baby sister because the 3 were to much for her.
Recently the grandmother started using meth. The county was trying to help her but she kept coming up with dirty tests so they removed the kids last Friday. The county is unsure of her rights so they are having a lawyer review it. If they don't have to they don't want to offer her any services. But things change so quickly in this business so it isn't over until its over!
When I picked the kids up at a gas station they couldn't wait to get in my car! They we very excited.
A week has passed and a lot more has transpired but I'm just to tired to go into it at the moment. They are great kids and we would love to adopt them if that is what God has for us.
We had a great Christmas. Our house is so small but our arms are full! There is a song running through my head a lot. ts called "Mr.Mom" and I think its by Lone Star. It makes me laugh because it reminds me of our new life.